jenis-jenis manusia

i have friends from all walks of life, daripada sealim-alim orang, sampai sejahat-jahat orang. ok tapi i belum pernah ada kawan pembunuh la, not yet in my list.

it's good to get to know people with different background, different belief, different perception, different lifestyle, different way of interpreting things. well, satu kepala or not tu belakang cerita. of course, kau tak boleh nak satu kepala with just anyone, tapi you can at least respect and shut up.

it's not that i'm proud if kawan2 i hanyut, makan duit haram, tonggang air haram, main perempuan etc etc, i would advise if i think i'm the right person to do so, but i would just shut up if i think i'm not. but whatever it is, usually i never really hate them because of what they do sebab i don't think i am that perfect, that suci murni, to hate others for their wrong-doings.

to me, the most important thing is to know them personally. bukan semua orang yang berdosa dengan Tuhan adalah busuk hati. true, orang kata setiap daripada kita ada tanggungjawab untuk nasihat orang lain, tapi to me, bukan semua orang sesuai untuk menasihatkan orang lain, so the least you could do is to hate the wrong-doings that the person commit, bukan membenci that person, outcast that person and treat him like dia sorang je yang berdosa and kau sorang je yang banyak pahala.

kadang-kadang kita tak tahu reasons for him committing all the sins, tapi kita judge. kita tak tahu what the person has gone through in his life yang menjadikan dia seorang yg penuh dengan dosa, tapi kita judge. kita tak tahu apa yang pernah terdetik dalam hati dia, tapi kita judge. kite ni manusia ke Tuhan?

betul, kalau depress, orang selalu nasihat kita ingat kepada Tuhan, jangan lupa Tuhan. but what if iman orang tu tak setegar iman kau? what if iman dia yang tak kuat tu yang membuatkan dia terus hanyut dengan dosa? what's the best thing to do? to judge him, hate him, outcast him or to befriend with him and guide him?

kau dah tentu baik dan mulia sebab kau tak commit all the sins and buat semua suruhan Tuhan, tapi at some other point of life, you're just as pathetic for acting like a God and judge others all you want.

i beg all of you to think about this, deeply.

Undang-undang Berkaraoke

Ada sape2 lagi ke yang tak tau aku pencinta karaoke? Ahaha kejadah apekah nak semua orang tau that I love karaoke-ing kan. Btw yes, I love love love karaoke-ing walaupun suaraku dihina dicaci malah diperkotak-katikkan, tapi persetankan itu semua. Tak nak dengar aku nyanyi sudah, nama kau dollah.

You don't need a golden voice untuk melayakkan diri berkaraoke anyway. Bak kata Air Asia, now everyone can fly, begitu jugalah slogan Red Box, now everyone can sing OK tipu ini slogan aku buat sendiri.

But I don't do karaoke with just anyone because some people adalah sangat terkinja-kinja melalukan perkara pantang larang semasa berkaraoke and it annoys me to death. So, lesson learnt, the next time you go karaoke-ing, make sure anda pergi bersama orang yang tidak terkinja-kinja melakukan perkara pantang larang semasa berkaraoke.

First things first, we all know karaoke bukanlah hobi yang murah unless pergi karaoke jamban. Red Box toksah cakap lah, berlubang sekejap walletku kalau karaoke kat Red Box, tapi demi cinta yang mendalam kepada suara emas sendiri, ku relakan juga.

So bila dah tau karaoke bukan benda murah, and kau orang tong tong bayar untuk bilik karaoke tu, apa barang dowh some people bila masuk je karaoke room, terus terkam remote control bilik 10 lagu stret untuk kau sorang. Macam ni :

"OMG cepat cepat I nak pilih lagu"
"Eh I nak lagu Katy Perryyy!! Haaa semua lagu Katy Perry I nak nyanyi, ok ok dah 5 lagu katy perry"
"Ohhhh I nak nyanyi that new released single from Britney jugak!!"
"Eh this song pon bestt!! Nak nak!!"

and it went on sampai si lakhanat ni dah pilih sampai 10 lagu. WTF dowh. I didn't pay to hear you sing for freaking 1 hour or so and lepas tu aku dapat nyanyi 1-2 lagu je padahal bayar sama rata gak. Cilakak betul. Common sense ade tak kak? Nak kata first time, kau siap ada membership card, tapi perangai terkinja-kinja kau boleh tahan jugak melampau.

Lenkali, pilih la 1-2 lagu and then pass the remote to your other friend and let her choose her songs, lepas tu pass kat kawan2 lain and baru back to you and now you can choose your third and fourth song. Ada paham? Kalau kau dah siap2 pilih 10 lagu, memang confirm2 la kau sorang je yang nyanyi nanti. Baik aku balik rumah nyanyi sorang2 dalam jamban dekat rumah aku, lagi syok okay.

Itu perkara pantang larang nombor 1 and yang paling aku menyampah. Pantang larang kedua aku adalah orang Amalaynicans. Arghhh ini pun menyampah lagi stress lagi muntah hijau berak cacing plsssssssssssss.

OK i can sing english songs when karaoke-ing but who cares if I wanna sing lagu dangdut? Or rock kapak? Or balada? Or irama tradisional? Who fucking cares? Amalaynicans care! Because orang melayu bajet mat salleh ni allergic kalau dengar orang nyanyi lagu melayu.

Honestly, my songs of choice when karaoke-ing are usually malay songs. Because whyyy, because I think it's fun-ner to sing malay songs when you're with a whole bunch of crazy friends, it suits ur voice and accent better (durrrhhh) and it really test your vocal waahahaha. Aku takde la membenci english songs when karaoke-ing, ade je aku nyanyi lagu english, tapi aku membenci orang melayu yang buat muka habis bajet when kawan kau pilih lagu melayu. Muka macam ni ;

"WTF, you really wanna sing a malay song?"
"OMG i can't stand orang sebelah nyanyi lagu dangdut, bernanah telinga i tau, pls la nyanyi lagu english"

Ala you get what I mean kan. Pls lah. If you're really a mat salleh and u're acting dat way then I won't really mind, but muka kau kalah muka jawa totok lepas tu engkau nak bajet buat muka hina when ur friend picks a malay song. Eh, pegi mati pls.

Okay moving on, next, aku sedikit annoyed bila semua lagu kau nak nyanyi berjemaah sampai tenggelam suara si penyanyi lepas tu microphone tu dah jadi macam dia punya sorang, tak nak langsung pass kat orang lain. Ok ni aku terpaksa annoyed dengan kadar sedikit sahaja sebab i do the same thing wahahahahahahha. Can't help it sometimes because I really love singing, biarpun suaraku dituduh sengau. But I occasionally pass the microphone to other friends okay ahahaha tapi part nyanyi berjemaah tu cannot be helped la sometimes ahahha OK OK will try untuk turn my mouth into silent mode bila orang lain punya turn nyanyi wahahahha.

Sometimes, kau tengok tajuk lagu yang kawan kau pilih kau macam tak tau what song is that. Tapi bila keluar je music, masing-masing "wehhhhhh aku tau lagu niiiii!!!" and then masing2 berjemaah nyanyi ramai2 weh. Hampa si pemilih lagu sebab suaranya bakal ditenggelami nyanyian berjemaah rakan2. -___-"

Oh basically those are the three things that annoy me to death lah when karaoke-ing. Orang yang meroyan pilih lagu untuk dia sorang, amalaynicans who's allergic to rock kapak songs or dangdut or whatever malay songs when karaoke-ing and lastly, orang yang semua lagu pun ada suara dia lepas tu microphone stays with him and only him dari awal sampai habis. Pergh.

Well, to me karaoke if the time for me to enjoy so I want to avoid annoying things like this as much as possible la kan and I'm sure orang lain especially pengkaraoke tegar seperti aku pun tak puas hati jugak kalau ade member2 yang terkinja2 buat perangai camni when karaoke-ing so pls take note okay the next time when u go karaoke-ing.

Some of my lagu2 kegemaran when karaoke-ing ;
1. bulan cinta (amelina)
2. zombie (the cranberries)
3. what's up (4 non blondes)
4. semua lagu ziana zain especially anggapanmu
5. teratai layu di tasik madu (fauziah latiff)
6. memori daun pisang (amelina and iwan)
7. semua lagu awie ahahahahaha especially di penjara janji LOL
8. kau yang bernama seri (handy black)
9. teringin (shima)
10. salam untuk kekasih (nadia) - new favourite
11. segenggam setia (rahmat) - new favourite
12. senggol-senggolan (mas idayu)
13. tenda biru (dessy ratnasari)

ok pls lah dun ask "are u like a big fan of dangdut?" and "do u even listen to dangdut songs when driving or studying or whatnot?" ahahahahhaha no i'm not a big fan of dangdut tapi i dunno why i suka karok lagu dangdut. macam best and macam fun. tak ke? and suka jugak nyanyi lagu2 ala2 mencabar vocal mcm lagu ziana zain ke, lagu nicky astria ke, aishah ke, awie keee, ahahaha and memang mencabar sampai nk terkeluar anak tekak tapi layan sajes.

and there's one thing about me when karaoke-ing, lepas karok 3-4 jam, mesti sakit pinggang. i think it's because i tend to nyanyi dengan posisi aneh untuk pengeluaran suara yang mantap haha. bila tanya orang lain diorang ade saket pinggang tak lepas karok, semua cam, "pehal nak saket pinggang lak kau nyanyi pakai ape weh?" ahaha ok ok so ini special case. harap maklum.

latest pic of me karaoke-ing

Troubled Relationship

Have you watched Lagenda Budak Setan(LBS)? Don't worry I'm not here to make a boring review on this movie but I'd like to write about something that is very much related to this movie. It's okay if you haven't watched this movie, I'll make you watch a simpler version of what I'm trying to convey, or precisely, what I'm trying to make you see in this video clip. It's Love The Way You Lie by Eminem feat Rihanna. Proceed after you have watch either one of these.

So have you realize just yet the similarities that these two have? In LBS, Azmi was Ayu's psychotic ex-boyfriend who continued to stalk her and made her marry him unwillingly. He was portrayed as an alcoholic who beats his wife on regular basis and still claim that he loves her unconditionally.

Similarly, in Eminem's video clip, the couple was seen beating each other, probably cursing into each other's face before they started to kiss and make out and yes, the same cycle repeats.

The only difference in these two is that Ayu wanted to get away from Azmi after all that he did to her but in that video clip, beautiful Megan chose to stay in that troubled relationship though she did make few attempts to runaway from the troubled relationship.

So tell me, is it really love?

If it's not love, why do we see Azmi crying and mourning over Ayu's death by her grave at the end of the movie? And if it's not love, why does the beating-cursing-kissing-and-making-out cycle repeats itself in the video clip and the runaway attempt by Megan failed as the guy pulled her back into his arms?

Trust me, this doesn't only happen in movies, it happens in real life and it is really love. But some people just don't know how to show their love the right way. And ask me, why would you wanna stay in a troubled relationship? What good does it do to you?

Sometimes, a troubled relationship lasts longer than a smooth normal relationship. Because after all the troubles you've gone through, after all the beating and cursing, you still decide to stay with each other and it is a proof that the love is really strong that even the endless beating and cursing can't separate the two of you.

What actually hold you together? It's actually quite tricky to produce this in words but all I can say is, it's the combination of mutual interests, mutual understanding, sharing of some (or a lot) crazy thoughts and experiences together, and that qualities required for you to be able to call someone as your partner-in-crime is what makes you two stick together through thick and thin.

How can you not be beyond comfortable with someone who has all these mutual qualities with you? And as we know, comfort zone is a dangerous zone and at this point, you tend to lose respect, you tend to argue a lot but you'll laugh about it when you're done arguing. It's funny in the beginning but as time passes by, you'll get used to it and you'll be living a troubled relationship making that as your normal routine, just like the couple in that video clip.

But troubled relationship doesn't necessarily means it lacks of love because by the time the relationship gets all troubled, you have already fallen so deeply in love with the other half and that your life has already been all about that person. And so no matter how much it hurts when he curses you, no matter how deep is the wound when he beats you, you'll find a way to forgive and forget and the cycle repeats.

Superficially, it looks stupid. On the eyes of the audience, any couples that continue to love each other in a troubled relationship looks terribly stupid and dumb and blind and foolish. But they say, you'll judge only because you don't know what it feels like to be in that kind of situation. And I'd say, yes it's true because if you really know what it feels like to get stucked in that pathetic situation, you won't wanna judge anyone else ever again.

At the end of LBS movie, Azmi was seen shedding tears by Ayu's grave and that really prove that Azmi's love for Ayu truly exist and he didn't make her marry him just to prove that the best man wins. Though love is all over him, he failed miserably when it comes to showing his love for Ayu.

If the couple in a troubled distorted relationship has finally decided to go separate ways, it's usually harder to kill the love compared to normal smooth kind of relationship because obviously, the love between the two persons is tested far more greater in the troubled relationship as compared to the normal relationship. And hence the hard time that they have to face in moving on.

But true enough, once you lose respect, you'll slowly lose everything. In the end, a relationship needs more than just love as the ingredients for a functioning relationship. No matter how much you love the other person, if you fail to show it the right way, you lose.

To Go Dutch or Not When Dating?

'Going dutch' simply means each person pays for his/her own expenses during a social outing, dating or whatever. For example, if you're going on a date with a girl, you practically split the bill into two and make the two of you pay for the bill equally, or according to what you've ordered. That's what it means by going dutch.

So here's the thing, do you go dutch or not when dating? It's an awkward topic to be discussed but trust me, it is beyond awkward when you're facing this kind of situation when a party opt for going dutch and another don't.

I wish I am that girl who has a traditional belief that a guy should pay for everything when going out for a date with a girl so I don't have to worry a bit about the amount of the bill, about the movie tickets, about the fuel, about everything. It sucks to think about money all the time when you should be concentrating on the date itself. Fortunate for you guys, I'm not one of those girls who turns a blind eye when it comes to money.

It's really nice (for us girls) for a guy to pay for our meal, for the tickets and everything. But as for me, I don't really feel comfortable to let a guy bear all the cost of the date. And I'm sure, despite of the cultural way of thinking that a guy should always pay when going on a date, a guy too, if not much, may be a little uncomfortable if he has to pay for everything every time. Especially if that guy is still studying and has no source of stable income just yet.

So what's the solution? To split the bill into two every time you go on a date? Honestly, though that's the fairest way of all, I don't find it brilliant. I think it's annoying, and erm, stingy too. If you're not in an intimate relationship then it's fine to split the bill into two every time you go out together. But when you're bringing your steady girlfriend out for a date, and you choose to split the bill into two every time, like, EVERY TIME, then there's something wrong with you.

It's not that I believe that a guy should pay everything, but to actually calculate how much you have to pay, and how much I have to pay, that's just not the right way of dealing it especially with your partner.

I'd rather go this way ; the boyfriend pays for the dinner, I'll pay for the movie tickets and the next time we go out, I'll pay for the dinner and he'll pay for the movie tickets. That way, though one person might have had spend extra seringgit or two, or maybe sepuluh ringgit, but hello, you're with the love of your love and you don't make a big deal out of sepuluh ringgit extra issue. Right?

So what about you? Do you prefer to go dutch or not to go dutch when going on a date?

p/s : But once you're a husband, then it's a whole different thing ;p kalau dah jadi laki pun nak berkira, susah la brader.

LELAKI, why so insensitive?!

when a girl tells you she's okay,
and that she's fine,
please lah listen to her tone,
and look at her facial expression,
she's definitely not okay if her tone is somewhat monotonous,
and her voice is low,
she's definitely not okay if she doesn't smile,
and durrhhh a boyfriend is someone who can tell if the smile is fake,

and if you're sensitive enough,
hug her right away,
or hold her hand,
or whatever it isss,
and say, i know you're not! (u know she's not okay lah, pls jgn blur sangat)

eh bole tak lelaki2 sekalian,
stop being insensitive at least to your girlfriend,
or your fiance,
or wife.

because this thing yang u guys panggil 'benda kecik',
can really lead to us rasa 'tawar hati',
and it can definitely lead to break-up.

stop being insensitive,
unless you really want a break-up.

damn it, we girls are serious about this!
GIRLSSSS, WE'RE SERIOUS, KAN??