if u're a regular reader of my blog, u'll realize that most of my posts are basically about me and things that happen around me. today, i'm gonna write about something that is rather informative, and i would say, a little controversial. something that has claim and counter-claim. i regret for not knowing about this when i was doing IB in KMS. if it was the other way round, i surely pick this topic as my TOK(Theory of Knowledge) presentation. hahahah so here goes...
ever heard of hymenoplasty? no? no worries. i'll make it crystal clear to u. hymenoplasty is hymen restoration surgery. it is meant to restore virginity. what's hymen? hymen is a fold of mucosal membrane that covers the external vaginal opening. u get what i mean right? hymen is usually damaged or torn during the first sexual intercourse. and the tearing of hymen is famously believed as an indicator dat a girl is no longer a virgin. yes, it's true to some extent, but hymen can also be damaged through sports, improper usage of tampons etc etc. so, that famous belief doesn't always hold true in all cases .
virginity of a woman is very much valued especially in religion point of view. u don't wanna marry a girl who's no longer a virgin isn't it? so, technology comes with a solution to this. HYMENOPLASTY. it's a medical procedure that allows re-virginization. i'm not gonna go any further with the procedure and all, but this medical procedure has sparked controversy, yes, mainly on its ethical values. and that's what i'm interested about.
mainly, those who seek for hymenoplasty are the ones who are trying to appease religious, cultural and social beliefs. yeah, especially those who are getting married with the hope not to upset the future husband with the fact that she is no longer a virgin. isn't it a form deception? you're about to get married with someone u think u're gonna spend ur whole life with, and yet u're trying to deceive him by undergoing hymenoplasty.
so, what do u think? is it appropriate? is it not? in other case, maybe the girl needs to undergo this controversial medical procedure because her hymen is torn due to sports, horse-riding etc etc (other than sexual intercourse). afraid that she'll be mistaken for a non-virgin, she decides to cover things up with hymenoplasty. partly, i still think that it is a form of deception. but hey, her intention is good. so, what do u think?
in Malaysia, i believe there is no such thing as hymenoplasty (or is it there already?) but this form of business is growing rapidly both in demand and popularity in majority of Middle East countries and Latin America. i personally think that the existence of hymenoplasty brings no good especially to the current and future population. imagine what will happen to the world if every girl can afford to undergo this surgery, financially. i guess, every girl will have a blast during their teenage life, and when they're about to settle down with someone special, they'll re-virginize themselves. poor husband.
on contrary, what if the girl wants to turn a new leaf and leave behind everything she had in the past? if she tells her future husband about the truth, there's every possibility that he can't accept it though she really regret what she did. in this case, is it acceptable to seek for hymenoplasty? i personally think that partly, she has a strong reason. she doesn't want to ruin the relationship, probably with the most ideal guy she ever met. but still, it's another form deception. what we usually call as white lie. what say you?
im not sure if u find this topic interesting. it is, to me. so, what do u think? any comments?
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Friday, November 14, 2008
pics of the month
i've been writing too much *tak larat sudeyh* now, let the pictures do the talking!
hari raya celebration in india :)
high heels!! <3>
KMS students in bangalore lalala~
jen's buftday bash!
masquarade party!
nana turns 20!
loves :)
those are recent pictures of me and my friends in india! Thursday, November 13, 2008
Wednesday, November 12, 2008
too much of a good thing
i just feel a little dejected lately. even worse when nobody is there to listen to me. sometimes, i do feel unappreciated. i THINK i've been a great listener to quite a number of ppl. just by listening to ppl's problems, i know it helps to alleviate their burden, if not much, maybe a little. but just when i need someone to listen to me, nobody seems to care.
too much of a good thing is not good. maybe i care too much about other people. and it is disappointing to know that they dun actually care if u're okay or not. they dun bother to know. even if they know u're facing a hard time, they dun bother to be there for u.
this is worth a lesson ; not to expect too much from someone else. the best motivator lies within you, yes, yourself.
too much of a good thing is not good. maybe i care too much about other people. and it is disappointing to know that they dun actually care if u're okay or not. they dun bother to know. even if they know u're facing a hard time, they dun bother to be there for u.
this is worth a lesson ; not to expect too much from someone else. the best motivator lies within you, yes, yourself.
Monday, November 10, 2008
baz, nana dan ajaran sesat mereka.
dis is real story la. but i dun play any role here. just a narrator la. i pon confuse nk categorize cite ni as cite lawak ke cite yg annoying. well, i guess it's a combination of both.
about 2-3 days back, budak2 baru yg akan join kitorang as 2nd year medical students dgn selamatnye smpai ke bangalore. well, i've no problem at all. in fact, am looking forward to make new friends. tapi, some shit happened. not to me, to my close friends. tapi agak annoying arrrr so i'm driven to write about some ppl's idiocy
okay, these 2 friends of mine, N and B ni terpakse la pindah duduk sebilik sbb nk memuatkan bebudak baru datang ni. bebudak baru ni kalo nk ikutkan tkde umah, tp kite pon ade la gak common sense kan, takkan nk suke suki dok satu bilik sorang time org lain dun even have a place to stay. so, B n N ni dgn baik hatinye kosongkan satu bilik kat umah dorg utk bagi budak baru ni masuk. first day, sume ok. 2nd day, sume ok. 3rd day, jeng jeng jeng.
camnie, hsemates baru dorg ni ade 2 org. Limah and Joyah (bukan name sebenar). Joyah ni ok-ok je la. takde wat hal. Limah ni plak ade sorang bestfriend, yg jugak budak baru datang, name die Senah. nk dijadikan cite, Senah ni dpt dok sebilik ngan another friend of mine, R. Si Senah ni katenye dh bertunang. so nk dijadikan cite, ade satu hari ni. N lepak2 kat umah R time lunch, skali dgn hsemates R yg lain. makan lunch bersame2 beramai2. kebetulan, time tu diorang mkn skali bersama 2 org kawan lelaki. bukan buat ape tu. terang benderang siap. mkn2 je pon. tiba2, Senah masuk rumah, nmpak je budak laki 2 org ni, die panjang slack gile babi. lepas tu, terus masuk bilik die(yg juge bilik R) n terus hempas pintu. tak lame lepas tu...
"R!meh sini jap", ceh, Si Senah ni pandai2 nk panggil org cam panggil kuli.
"sape budak 2 org tu?ape die buat kat sini?bile nk balik?", Si Senah sambung lagi.
"oh,diorang dtg mkn lunch. dorg nk balik dh", R mmg sopan santun ar.
"awak tau tak saye dh bertunang, saye kene hormat etc etc", Si Senah ni bising2 plak cam rumah tu die yg punye.
fine, kalau ye pon tak puas hati, camtu ke cara nk berckp ngan org? dhla kau baru kenal org, duduk menumpang plak tu, ade hati nk bising2 camtu? kalau ye pon tk selesa ngan cara diorang, bole je kot kau ckp elok2. just because u're 2-3 years older, it doesn't mean that u dun have to respect us. please, sape kata org lagi tua tak perlu respect org muda?
oh, lepas tu. Si Senah ni pegi umah Si Limah(umah N n B la ni). gossip2 + kutuk2 la tu. tak sedar2 menumpang, ade hati nk mengutuk si pemberi tumpang. the next thing we knew was, Si Senah ngan Si Limah ni bawak cite, kate N ngan B ade patung kat umah. siap ade rantai ala2 Rome Purba (what the heck kan?) and pstu claim N ngan B ikut ajaran sesat. hello, aku ni pegi umah diorang hari2 kot, tk pnah plak jmpe mane2 patung berantai ala2 Rome Purba (ni sumpah bodoh nk mati) . B ngan N ni dh terpinga2 dok pikir celah mane plak dorang bela patung kat umah tu. takkan teddy bear B is mistaken as patung berantai ala2 Rome Purba kot? ni mmg bikin panas. B ngan N sikit punye baik layan dorg, dpt plak cite bukan2 camtu. apekah?
pstu tadi pagi, aku n B nmpak the 2 BFF ni pegi jmpe Prof Sudha (our dean). N siap nampak BFF ni sedu sedan time jmpe dean. apekah? complaint psl ajaran sesat ker?wakakakakkakakak. mmg gile tak masuk akal n disrespectful la. i know my friends very well la. though diorang tak nmpak alim and all, tapi takdela smpai dh tak kenal tuhan sendiri. and tkde la smpai nk fitnah org lain ade ajaran sesat ke ape. kalau diorang tu elok sgt, yg dok nk reka2 cite camtu ape kes? org kalau cukup baik, cukup adab, tkdenye mase nk buat cite camtu.
oh another thing, ni R cite kat kitorang. memandangkan bilik R ni ditakdirkan sempit, maka katil kat bilik tu dirapatkan ar nk jimat space. tp Si Senah ni suke suki die kate die takleh tido kalau katil rapat. so, berbekalkan segala kebijaksanaan dan kepandaian otak, maka Senah pon menseparatekan katil mereka dgn kadar SEJENGKAL, dan Senah pon bole tido nyenyak. rase tak annoying di situ? sejengkal je pon. kecah btul Senah ni.
tah la, aku ni baru la nk menanamkan impression yg baik kepada kawan2 yg baru smpai ni. mmg la dorang ni lg tua dr kitorang. bukannye kitorang ni tak reti2 nk respect org yg lagi besar, tapi kalau org yg lagi besar tu perangai cam haprak, jgn harap la kitorang nk respect. lantak la kau dh tunang ke, dh kawin ker, dh jadi janda ke, kalo dh name biadap, pegi mati same kau.
moral of the story is, kalau awak tu orang baru datang, menumpang plak tu, buat la care menumpang, tu pon nk kene ajar ke? otak letak kat buku lali ke kak? baru 2-3 hari kat sini, kau dh buat drama melayu, lg 2-3 tahun, mcm2 la filem melayu kau kat sini ye kak? gile annoying.
k la, aku nk pegi tolong B ngan N pegi cari patung berantai ala Rome Purba kat umah dorang. wakakakkaka. misteri sey. nak kene cari gak patung misteri yg menjadi sebutan kakak2 biadap ni. wakakakakakkaakkaka.
p/s : to those yg tak tau psl cite ni, msti pening bace ape tah aku tulis kan. hahahaha sorry susunan sedikit tahi tp aku malas nk betulkan. korang phm2 sendiri je la. tak paham sudah name kau dollah. ok bye.
about 2-3 days back, budak2 baru yg akan join kitorang as 2nd year medical students dgn selamatnye smpai ke bangalore. well, i've no problem at all. in fact, am looking forward to make new friends. tapi, some shit happened. not to me, to my close friends. tapi agak annoying arrrr so i'm driven to write about some ppl's idiocy
okay, these 2 friends of mine, N and B ni terpakse la pindah duduk sebilik sbb nk memuatkan bebudak baru datang ni. bebudak baru ni kalo nk ikutkan tkde umah, tp kite pon ade la gak common sense kan, takkan nk suke suki dok satu bilik sorang time org lain dun even have a place to stay. so, B n N ni dgn baik hatinye kosongkan satu bilik kat umah dorg utk bagi budak baru ni masuk. first day, sume ok. 2nd day, sume ok. 3rd day, jeng jeng jeng.
camnie, hsemates baru dorg ni ade 2 org. Limah and Joyah (bukan name sebenar). Joyah ni ok-ok je la. takde wat hal. Limah ni plak ade sorang bestfriend, yg jugak budak baru datang, name die Senah. nk dijadikan cite, Senah ni dpt dok sebilik ngan another friend of mine, R. Si Senah ni katenye dh bertunang. so nk dijadikan cite, ade satu hari ni. N lepak2 kat umah R time lunch, skali dgn hsemates R yg lain. makan lunch bersame2 beramai2. kebetulan, time tu diorang mkn skali bersama 2 org kawan lelaki. bukan buat ape tu. terang benderang siap. mkn2 je pon. tiba2, Senah masuk rumah, nmpak je budak laki 2 org ni, die panjang slack gile babi. lepas tu, terus masuk bilik die(yg juge bilik R) n terus hempas pintu. tak lame lepas tu...
"R!meh sini jap", ceh, Si Senah ni pandai2 nk panggil org cam panggil kuli.
"sape budak 2 org tu?ape die buat kat sini?bile nk balik?", Si Senah sambung lagi.
"oh,diorang dtg mkn lunch. dorg nk balik dh", R mmg sopan santun ar.
"awak tau tak saye dh bertunang, saye kene hormat etc etc", Si Senah ni bising2 plak cam rumah tu die yg punye.
fine, kalau ye pon tak puas hati, camtu ke cara nk berckp ngan org? dhla kau baru kenal org, duduk menumpang plak tu, ade hati nk bising2 camtu? kalau ye pon tk selesa ngan cara diorang, bole je kot kau ckp elok2. just because u're 2-3 years older, it doesn't mean that u dun have to respect us. please, sape kata org lagi tua tak perlu respect org muda?
oh, lepas tu. Si Senah ni pegi umah Si Limah(umah N n B la ni). gossip2 + kutuk2 la tu. tak sedar2 menumpang, ade hati nk mengutuk si pemberi tumpang. the next thing we knew was, Si Senah ngan Si Limah ni bawak cite, kate N ngan B ade patung kat umah. siap ade rantai ala2 Rome Purba (what the heck kan?) and pstu claim N ngan B ikut ajaran sesat. hello, aku ni pegi umah diorang hari2 kot, tk pnah plak jmpe mane2 patung berantai ala2 Rome Purba (ni sumpah bodoh nk mati) . B ngan N ni dh terpinga2 dok pikir celah mane plak dorang bela patung kat umah tu. takkan teddy bear B is mistaken as patung berantai ala2 Rome Purba kot? ni mmg bikin panas. B ngan N sikit punye baik layan dorg, dpt plak cite bukan2 camtu. apekah?
pstu tadi pagi, aku n B nmpak the 2 BFF ni pegi jmpe Prof Sudha (our dean). N siap nampak BFF ni sedu sedan time jmpe dean. apekah? complaint psl ajaran sesat ker?wakakakakkakakak. mmg gile tak masuk akal n disrespectful la. i know my friends very well la. though diorang tak nmpak alim and all, tapi takdela smpai dh tak kenal tuhan sendiri. and tkde la smpai nk fitnah org lain ade ajaran sesat ke ape. kalau diorang tu elok sgt, yg dok nk reka2 cite camtu ape kes? org kalau cukup baik, cukup adab, tkdenye mase nk buat cite camtu.
oh another thing, ni R cite kat kitorang. memandangkan bilik R ni ditakdirkan sempit, maka katil kat bilik tu dirapatkan ar nk jimat space. tp Si Senah ni suke suki die kate die takleh tido kalau katil rapat. so, berbekalkan segala kebijaksanaan dan kepandaian otak, maka Senah pon menseparatekan katil mereka dgn kadar SEJENGKAL, dan Senah pon bole tido nyenyak. rase tak annoying di situ? sejengkal je pon. kecah btul Senah ni.
tah la, aku ni baru la nk menanamkan impression yg baik kepada kawan2 yg baru smpai ni. mmg la dorang ni lg tua dr kitorang. bukannye kitorang ni tak reti2 nk respect org yg lagi besar, tapi kalau org yg lagi besar tu perangai cam haprak, jgn harap la kitorang nk respect. lantak la kau dh tunang ke, dh kawin ker, dh jadi janda ke, kalo dh name biadap, pegi mati same kau.
moral of the story is, kalau awak tu orang baru datang, menumpang plak tu, buat la care menumpang, tu pon nk kene ajar ke? otak letak kat buku lali ke kak? baru 2-3 hari kat sini, kau dh buat drama melayu, lg 2-3 tahun, mcm2 la filem melayu kau kat sini ye kak? gile annoying.
k la, aku nk pegi tolong B ngan N pegi cari patung berantai ala Rome Purba kat umah dorang. wakakakkaka. misteri sey. nak kene cari gak patung misteri yg menjadi sebutan kakak2 biadap ni. wakakakakakkaakkaka.
p/s : to those yg tak tau psl cite ni, msti pening bace ape tah aku tulis kan. hahahaha sorry susunan sedikit tahi tp aku malas nk betulkan. korang phm2 sendiri je la. tak paham sudah name kau dollah. ok bye.
Saturday, November 8, 2008
marah %@%#%#^$^&#^# dan marah!
whats up laa with the electricity in india??? mcm taikkkkkk!!!!!!! time aku nk bersiap2 keluar for night out, time tu la tkde letrik! celah mane aku nk pakai baju make up pe sume! nk iron baju sume celah mane? dah la i was running out of time, pstu bole plak tkde letrik! dhla lampu generator umah ni tkde jugak! errrrgggghhh psl tkde letrik arrrr aku tk dpt nk blow rambut sume! babssss!
everyday pon tkde letrik, apekah???!! nk jadi cam last time ke? time aku final, time aku struggle nk abiskan syllabus, time tu la tkde letrik! then nak tak nak, kene gak blaja with lilin! kalau ikutkan, buat hape? buat tambah rabun aku jer! tapi, dah mmg time time tu gak final, bile lagi nk bace nyeee? terpakse arrr blaja dlm gelap!! babs! sumpah bengang!
pstu skarang, die start balik! smalam tkde letrik! td pagi tkde letrik, smpai aku nk tido pon tak sedap! paling latest, tadiii! time bersiap nk keluar!!!!! bole takkk, make up dkt pintu umah, sbb nk amek lighting dari luar! mmg super sial!
mmg emo! mmg!! biar ar korang nk kate ape! yg penting aku dh bengang, jadi homeless pon dpt gak pakai lampu jalan! ni rumah elok2, dhla bayar satu bilik tu bapak mahalnye, bole plak tkde letrik! babs!!!!
oh lagi satu, sewa umah nnti naik by 40%! WTFFF!!!!! tak cukup2 mahal lagi kerrR? kat msia umah lg cantik pon sewa tak semahal kat sini! cibai punye bangalore! kalo camni, ni yg aku rase nk beli papan pstu buat rumah sendiri! tak pon duduk jer kat slum area! satu bilik yg blom tentu besa pon rs 7000! bongok nk mati!!! itu baru SATU BILIK! damn! cekik darah orang! arrrggghhhh bab^ punye bangaloreee!
*itulah die luahan perasaan utk malam ini. sekian terima kasih!*
everyday pon tkde letrik, apekah???!! nk jadi cam last time ke? time aku final, time aku struggle nk abiskan syllabus, time tu la tkde letrik! then nak tak nak, kene gak blaja with lilin! kalau ikutkan, buat hape? buat tambah rabun aku jer! tapi, dah mmg time time tu gak final, bile lagi nk bace nyeee? terpakse arrr blaja dlm gelap!! babs! sumpah bengang!
pstu skarang, die start balik! smalam tkde letrik! td pagi tkde letrik, smpai aku nk tido pon tak sedap! paling latest, tadiii! time bersiap nk keluar!!!!! bole takkk, make up dkt pintu umah, sbb nk amek lighting dari luar! mmg super sial!
mmg emo! mmg!! biar ar korang nk kate ape! yg penting aku dh bengang, jadi homeless pon dpt gak pakai lampu jalan! ni rumah elok2, dhla bayar satu bilik tu bapak mahalnye, bole plak tkde letrik! babs!!!!
oh lagi satu, sewa umah nnti naik by 40%! WTFFF!!!!! tak cukup2 mahal lagi kerrR? kat msia umah lg cantik pon sewa tak semahal kat sini! cibai punye bangalore! kalo camni, ni yg aku rase nk beli papan pstu buat rumah sendiri! tak pon duduk jer kat slum area! satu bilik yg blom tentu besa pon rs 7000! bongok nk mati!!! itu baru SATU BILIK! damn! cekik darah orang! arrrggghhhh bab^ punye bangaloreee!
*itulah die luahan perasaan utk malam ini. sekian terima kasih!*
Thursday, November 6, 2008
losing
losing people that i love the most is one of my biggest fear. please, i can't afford to lose anyone that i love. not my dad, not my mom, not my siblings, not my besties, not my boyfriend, not even friends. they mean a lot to me.
recently, a good friend of mine lost her beloved mother. she's my housemate to be specific. though her mother has got nothing to do with me, i do feel the pain of losing someone very significant in life. but it can never be comparable to the pain that she's feeling. but i very much believe that she's strong enough to face this. insyaAllah.
losing a person, whether the person dies or the person just walk away from our life, is indeed painful. but without us realizing it, losing someone we love the most teaches us a lot of things. it teaches us to be strong, to accept things, and to be independent. sometimes, losing someone is the only way we can learn. gotta believe it.
i can write based on my experience. i used to have a good friend. everything went well at the beginning of our friendship. not until i know his true colors. he was VERY hot-tempered, a control freak, he swears all he wants and he promised a lot, and i kept hoping hopelessly for him to fulfill his promises. because i love the friendship, and because he was someone very significant in my life, i patiently waited and hoped for him to change. but nothing changes. not even my tears can change him. not even my words. nothing can change him. he was cold hearted. and still he refused to let go the friendship. and so i waited, i stupidly told myself to have faith in him. but my patience was useless, and finally, my faith towards him was tarnished. this time, i gotta prioritize myself above anything else. we were through.
yes, it wasn't a good ending. it wasn't what we both wanted. but i had to do it. i believe, that's the only way he can learn. and me too, i've learnt a lot too. i'm now glad that he realized his mistakes. not to say that i've committed no mistakes, i did too. it was a lesson for us both. to list down the things that i've learnt, it'll require me pages. i mean it. but, it's all in the past. i can't turn back time. even if i could, i would never want to go back and fix things up. let it remains how it is now. i am now fine. though it was tough at the beginning, i managed to get through it. i managed to get over it. that's what "losing" taught me. i am now stronger than i was before. thanks to you.
think about it.
recently, a good friend of mine lost her beloved mother. she's my housemate to be specific. though her mother has got nothing to do with me, i do feel the pain of losing someone very significant in life. but it can never be comparable to the pain that she's feeling. but i very much believe that she's strong enough to face this. insyaAllah.
losing a person, whether the person dies or the person just walk away from our life, is indeed painful. but without us realizing it, losing someone we love the most teaches us a lot of things. it teaches us to be strong, to accept things, and to be independent. sometimes, losing someone is the only way we can learn. gotta believe it.
i can write based on my experience. i used to have a good friend. everything went well at the beginning of our friendship. not until i know his true colors. he was VERY hot-tempered, a control freak, he swears all he wants and he promised a lot, and i kept hoping hopelessly for him to fulfill his promises. because i love the friendship, and because he was someone very significant in my life, i patiently waited and hoped for him to change. but nothing changes. not even my tears can change him. not even my words. nothing can change him. he was cold hearted. and still he refused to let go the friendship. and so i waited, i stupidly told myself to have faith in him. but my patience was useless, and finally, my faith towards him was tarnished. this time, i gotta prioritize myself above anything else. we were through.
yes, it wasn't a good ending. it wasn't what we both wanted. but i had to do it. i believe, that's the only way he can learn. and me too, i've learnt a lot too. i'm now glad that he realized his mistakes. not to say that i've committed no mistakes, i did too. it was a lesson for us both. to list down the things that i've learnt, it'll require me pages. i mean it. but, it's all in the past. i can't turn back time. even if i could, i would never want to go back and fix things up. let it remains how it is now. i am now fine. though it was tough at the beginning, i managed to get through it. i managed to get over it. that's what "losing" taught me. i am now stronger than i was before. thanks to you.
"why do we never know what we've got till it's gone?"
think about it.
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