Sunday, December 7, 2008

gersangkah anda? something to ponder.


a certain someone asked my opinion about being loyal to our special someone, is it a mandatory or is it not? apparently, the one who came out with such question was a guy, a very thoughtful one! :D

well, it's really up to an individual. but as for me, i believe in karma. what goes around comes around. i dun want my boyfriend to flirt around with some other girls when i faithfully wait for him. how do i react if i get to know that my boyfriend is seeking another girl? that will definitely cost me tears. yeah, hate to admit this but i am that fragile to be frank. i'm a believer, and i believe love is a gift, something that's very pure and miraculous. love does wonders to us all. don't u think so? and it's a shame that some people are just too blind to realize how wonderful love is by making love all fouled-up with the presence of 3rd person.

most of the time, distance is the strongest ever reason for someone to cheat with his other half. that's so pathetic okay. if u can't handle the distance, then i would suggest u not to get involve in this game called love. being in love doesn't necessarily means that u'll be all glued-up to ur other half and that distance won't come in between, bullshit. and being away from ur loved one is not the ticket for u to get a newbie in ur pathetic game. unless ur faraway darling is treating u like shit, i strongly believe that distance doesn't give u the privilege of having a new guy/girl out of the loneliness that u're going thru.

i've been observing for quite some time. this phenomenon is epidemic. almost everyone is getting themselves a new love, leaving behind the faraway darling. and of course, they are fully prepared with the list of reasons on why they are eligible to do so. isn't it a shame? i mean, feeling is not something that we can simply play with. to me, it's something to be cherished, to be taken care of, and it should be looked upon as something that's very precious. sadly, some people fail to think that way.

loneliness injects a lot of negative thoughts inside our mind. i feel that too. i dun have heart of an angel, and i admit that sometimes i do feel like getting myself a new guy to fill up my loneliness. and in fact, i do have every chance of doing so. but 2nd thought about it will definitely bring me back to the real world and i will end up cursing myself for having such filthy, dirty, smutty thoughts.

i must say that distance is really something. but to me, distance means so little when someone means so much. i too make a big fuss over the distance but then again, it stops there. i won't let the distance tells me that my relationship is over and i won't use that lame excuse to flirt with some other guys in the name of fun (or gersang to be precise hahah) as long as my brain is able to function the way it is now, i'm not gonna get involved in this pathetic situation. as much as i expect my faraway darling to respect and wait for me, i'll do the same for him too.

i am definitely not the best example of someone who is loyal to her special one. not that i'm not one. but i believe there's always someone better than me. the message i'm trying to convey in this entry is for us all to cherish our loved ones. love is not something that we can simply find, but it is something that we build. i hope u have something to ponder now :) see ya~

18 comments:

amirah zayanah said...

being far away from each other make you realise what LOVE is all about. for me, being too close and get to meet him/her everyday doesn't teach you the true meaning of love. i'm a strong beliver in long a distance relationship. all you need is just a trust :D

muhamad afiq bahrim said...

yop... i agree... to what? hahaha to left your other half for a while (not like the 'the hollywood' one) means that i can strengthen our relationship... including distance... yeah.. we might feel lonely at times... but if we meet too often mean like 'belangkas' or 'horseshoe crab' hahaha funny (the name in english..) it will be boring as the time goes by and the beziehung(relationship) will be sour of the fact that 'maybe' one part of the other half is boring...
bla bla bla...
and i believe that i can fly
but sammi cheng is good at love right? keh keh

julu said...

LOVE???
iam never believe it...

SINGLE IS SIMPLE..DOUBLE VERY TROUBLE....

nadd said...

auww. ira. soo sweet. but ira, sometimes love is weird.
u knw it is wrong to be the 3rd person, but u do it anyway.

so dun judge me plss. aku tak jahat. =D

dun worry. im trying rite now.. to stop =)

IRA said...

mirah : wahhh bagusnyee..strong believer in long distance relationship! syabas syabas ;p

afiq : sammi cheng is dr love laa beb! hahahahahha ;p ;p ;p

julu : not just yet kottt? :D

nadd : am not gonna judge my bestie la ngekngok! lgpon i very much understand ur situation! SGT faham kottttT?

Anonymous said...

hey ira read ur blog.kinda sweet in so many ways, guess u havent gotten hurt really bad..dats why u still have ur hopes on love. well, ive been there and doen everything n it seems everything turned out to be bad in the end. a relationship of years with a lover turned out just being a casual roomate in the end. Its not wrong for u to hope and believe, wel every one needs to experience everything to learn things..my advice is, never give ur heart 100%. always 70 or 60% urs and the rest is his.This way, even if u get hurt...it wont be a suicidal one. *cheers*

Faizul Ramli said...

undeniable,by glancing at her every day was totally freaking uptempo,gotta learn how to torn it away besides one inspiring lanky guy once told me that u are meant to each other forever not just because u stand a night together,it's much more complicated and it takes a lot of efforts just to ensure that both of u enjoy ur life to d max!

Nana Suhaili said...

cool yaar! loyal loyal.

IRA said...

anonymous : hey thanks for reading :D i dunno what u went through but i must have been tough for u because i've been there too. a very tough and hurtful one. but tatau la cmne i can still believe in love. hahaha. thanks anyway for ur advice :)

faizul : yeppp! sooo agreee! a relationship is more complicated that what we thought and love alone is definitely not enuff kan kan! :)

nana : hehehe loyal laaaaaaaa ;p

missNunie said...

hye,just dropping by. :)
ermm,nice post here, i always have this admiration for long-distance relatioship n the ppl involved.
im definitely up for one,
n yeah, like amirah said:
"all you need is just trust"!

riena- said...

.interesting post...
i totally believe in love..
sumhow experience really do became an impact in my life...
long distance rlationship?been there..yup!! its true all u need is trust and tolerance..between each other.yeah,for me everytime i feel lonely,i tend to look at the picture it brings me back all the memories...u'll cherished the relationship more n more.all de best to ue..:)

wanee said...

yay im the better example! hihi :P

nadd said...

HAHA anonymous, believe me, shes been there too. a tough one. very. kan ira. omg aku mengikuti okay ur love life since forever kot?


hehe. love u okay?

N

IRA said...

missnunie : thanks for dropping by :)

wanee : u long distance kee pon? ;p

nadd : sgt! dari mule2 till the very end kot and u know every single little thing about it hahhhaa love u babeeee!

IRA said...

riena : photos really help kannn? :) i do the same thing and it works hehehe

azar syazwan said...

J-ust because we are far dont mean
I-n the middle of our busy life
W-e wont feel a thing
A-ctually the feeling to long u
C-ant hardly b denied
I-m missing u
N-ot to mention how lonely i feel,but
T-ake my words, take it as a promise
H-owever, whenever, wherever
A-s long as forever i will always wait for u n love u...
+azar+

IRA said...

baby : that's so sweet of u :) though u're a little late ;p , but that's okay i know u're packed with lotsa things :) love every single thing that u wrote for me, thanks so much syg! cant help smiling :) :) :) love u!

Mighty Jacksparrow said...

beautifully written.

it has to be in balance. unanswered miss leads to filthy lust. oh u know what i mean.