Have you watched Lagenda Budak Setan(LBS)? Don't worry I'm not here to make a boring review on this movie but I'd like to write about something that is very much related to this movie. It's okay if you haven't watched this movie, I'll make you watch a simpler version of what I'm trying to convey, or precisely, what I'm trying to make you see in this video clip. It's Love The Way You Lie by Eminem feat Rihanna. Proceed after you have watch either one of these.
So have you realize just yet the similarities that these two have? In LBS, Azmi was Ayu's psychotic ex-boyfriend who continued to stalk her and made her marry him unwillingly. He was portrayed as an alcoholic who beats his wife on regular basis and still claim that he loves her unconditionally.
Similarly, in Eminem's video clip, the couple was seen beating each other, probably cursing into each other's face before they started to kiss and make out and yes, the same cycle repeats.
The only difference in these two is that Ayu wanted to get away from Azmi after all that he did to her but in that video clip, beautiful Megan chose to stay in that troubled relationship though she did make few attempts to runaway from the troubled relationship.
So tell me, is it really love?
If it's not love, why do we see Azmi crying and mourning over Ayu's death by her grave at the end of the movie? And if it's not love, why does the beating-cursing-kissing-and-making-out cycle repeats itself in the video clip and the runaway attempt by Megan failed as the guy pulled her back into his arms?
Trust me, this doesn't only happen in movies, it happens in real life and it is really love. But some people just don't know how to show their love the right way. And ask me, why would you wanna stay in a troubled relationship? What good does it do to you?
Sometimes, a troubled relationship lasts longer than a smooth normal relationship. Because after all the troubles you've gone through, after all the beating and cursing, you still decide to stay with each other and it is a proof that the love is really strong that even the endless beating and cursing can't separate the two of you.
What actually hold you together? It's actually quite tricky to produce this in words but all I can say is, it's the combination of mutual interests, mutual understanding, sharing of some (or a lot) crazy thoughts and experiences together, and that qualities required for you to be able to call someone as your partner-in-crime is what makes you two stick together through thick and thin.
How can you not be beyond comfortable with someone who has all these mutual qualities with you? And as we know, comfort zone is a dangerous zone and at this point, you tend to lose respect, you tend to argue a lot but you'll laugh about it when you're done arguing. It's funny in the beginning but as time passes by, you'll get used to it and you'll be living a troubled relationship making that as your normal routine, just like the couple in that video clip.
But troubled relationship doesn't necessarily means it lacks of love because by the time the relationship gets all troubled, you have already fallen so deeply in love with the other half and that your life has already been all about that person. And so no matter how much it hurts when he curses you, no matter how deep is the wound when he beats you, you'll find a way to forgive and forget and the cycle repeats.
Superficially, it looks stupid. On the eyes of the audience, any couples that continue to love each other in a troubled relationship looks terribly stupid and dumb and blind and foolish. But they say, you'll judge only because you don't know what it feels like to be in that kind of situation. And I'd say, yes it's true because if you really know what it feels like to get stucked in that pathetic situation, you won't wanna judge anyone else ever again.
At the end of LBS movie, Azmi was seen shedding tears by Ayu's grave and that really prove that Azmi's love for Ayu truly exist and he didn't make her marry him just to prove that the best man wins. Though love is all over him, he failed miserably when it comes to showing his love for Ayu.
If the couple in a troubled distorted relationship has finally decided to go separate ways, it's usually harder to kill the love compared to normal smooth kind of relationship because obviously, the love between the two persons is tested far more greater in the troubled relationship as compared to the normal relationship. And hence the hard time that they have to face in moving on.
But true enough, once you lose respect, you'll slowly lose everything. In the end, a relationship needs more than just love as the ingredients for a functioning relationship. No matter how much you love the other person, if you fail to show it the right way, you lose.
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Thursday, October 21, 2010
Tuesday, October 19, 2010
To Go Dutch or Not When Dating?
'Going dutch' simply means each person pays for his/her own expenses during a social outing, dating or whatever. For example, if you're going on a date with a girl, you practically split the bill into two and make the two of you pay for the bill equally, or according to what you've ordered. That's what it means by going dutch.
So here's the thing, do you go dutch or not when dating? It's an awkward topic to be discussed but trust me, it is beyond awkward when you're facing this kind of situation when a party opt for going dutch and another don't.
I wish I am that girl who has a traditional belief that a guy should pay for everything when going out for a date with a girl so I don't have to worry a bit about the amount of the bill, about the movie tickets, about the fuel, about everything. It sucks to think about money all the time when you should be concentrating on the date itself. Fortunate for you guys, I'm not one of those girls who turns a blind eye when it comes to money.
It's really nice (for us girls) for a guy to pay for our meal, for the tickets and everything. But as for me, I don't really feel comfortable to let a guy bear all the cost of the date. And I'm sure, despite of the cultural way of thinking that a guy should always pay when going on a date, a guy too, if not much, may be a little uncomfortable if he has to pay for everything every time. Especially if that guy is still studying and has no source of stable income just yet.
So what's the solution? To split the bill into two every time you go on a date? Honestly, though that's the fairest way of all, I don't find it brilliant. I think it's annoying, and erm, stingy too. If you're not in an intimate relationship then it's fine to split the bill into two every time you go out together. But when you're bringing your steady girlfriend out for a date, and you choose to split the bill into two every time, like, EVERY TIME, then there's something wrong with you.
It's not that I believe that a guy should pay everything, but to actually calculate how much you have to pay, and how much I have to pay, that's just not the right way of dealing it especially with your partner.
I'd rather go this way ; the boyfriend pays for the dinner, I'll pay for the movie tickets and the next time we go out, I'll pay for the dinner and he'll pay for the movie tickets. That way, though one person might have had spend extra seringgit or two, or maybe sepuluh ringgit, but hello, you're with the love of your love and you don't make a big deal out of sepuluh ringgit extra issue. Right?
So what about you? Do you prefer to go dutch or not to go dutch when going on a date?
p/s : But once you're a husband, then it's a whole different thing ;p kalau dah jadi laki pun nak berkira, susah la brader.
So here's the thing, do you go dutch or not when dating? It's an awkward topic to be discussed but trust me, it is beyond awkward when you're facing this kind of situation when a party opt for going dutch and another don't.
I wish I am that girl who has a traditional belief that a guy should pay for everything when going out for a date with a girl so I don't have to worry a bit about the amount of the bill, about the movie tickets, about the fuel, about everything. It sucks to think about money all the time when you should be concentrating on the date itself. Fortunate for you guys, I'm not one of those girls who turns a blind eye when it comes to money.
It's really nice (for us girls) for a guy to pay for our meal, for the tickets and everything. But as for me, I don't really feel comfortable to let a guy bear all the cost of the date. And I'm sure, despite of the cultural way of thinking that a guy should always pay when going on a date, a guy too, if not much, may be a little uncomfortable if he has to pay for everything every time. Especially if that guy is still studying and has no source of stable income just yet.
So what's the solution? To split the bill into two every time you go on a date? Honestly, though that's the fairest way of all, I don't find it brilliant. I think it's annoying, and erm, stingy too. If you're not in an intimate relationship then it's fine to split the bill into two every time you go out together. But when you're bringing your steady girlfriend out for a date, and you choose to split the bill into two every time, like, EVERY TIME, then there's something wrong with you.
It's not that I believe that a guy should pay everything, but to actually calculate how much you have to pay, and how much I have to pay, that's just not the right way of dealing it especially with your partner.
I'd rather go this way ; the boyfriend pays for the dinner, I'll pay for the movie tickets and the next time we go out, I'll pay for the dinner and he'll pay for the movie tickets. That way, though one person might have had spend extra seringgit or two, or maybe sepuluh ringgit, but hello, you're with the love of your love and you don't make a big deal out of sepuluh ringgit extra issue. Right?
So what about you? Do you prefer to go dutch or not to go dutch when going on a date?
p/s : But once you're a husband, then it's a whole different thing ;p kalau dah jadi laki pun nak berkira, susah la brader.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
LELAKI, why so insensitive?!
when a girl tells you she's okay,
and that she's fine,
please lah listen to her tone,
and look at her facial expression,
she's definitely not okay if her tone is somewhat monotonous,
and her voice is low,
she's definitely not okay if she doesn't smile,
and durrhhh a boyfriend is someone who can tell if the smile is fake,
and if you're sensitive enough,
hug her right away,
or hold her hand,
or whatever it isss,
and say, i know you're not! (u know she's not okay lah, pls jgn blur sangat)
eh bole tak lelaki2 sekalian,
stop being insensitive at least to your girlfriend,
or your fiance,
or wife.
because this thing yang u guys panggil 'benda kecik',
can really lead to us rasa 'tawar hati',
and it can definitely lead to break-up.
stop being insensitive,
unless you really want a break-up.
damn it, we girls are serious about this!
GIRLSSSS, WE'RE SERIOUS, KAN??
and that she's fine,
please lah listen to her tone,
and look at her facial expression,
she's definitely not okay if her tone is somewhat monotonous,
and her voice is low,
she's definitely not okay if she doesn't smile,
and durrhhh a boyfriend is someone who can tell if the smile is fake,
and if you're sensitive enough,
hug her right away,
or hold her hand,
or whatever it isss,
and say, i know you're not! (u know she's not okay lah, pls jgn blur sangat)
eh bole tak lelaki2 sekalian,
stop being insensitive at least to your girlfriend,
or your fiance,
or wife.
because this thing yang u guys panggil 'benda kecik',
can really lead to us rasa 'tawar hati',
and it can definitely lead to break-up.
stop being insensitive,
unless you really want a break-up.
damn it, we girls are serious about this!
GIRLSSSS, WE'RE SERIOUS, KAN??
Sunday, September 26, 2010
we girls have amnesia :D
we girls are very forgetful,
we forget things all the time,
we forget about almost anything and everything,
therefore,
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you love us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you adore us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you miss us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you need us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how important we are in your life.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of the reasons why you love us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
that life sucks without us.
because if you don't do that,
we'll forget.
because we girls suffer from amnesia,
so deal with it, guys!
we forget things all the time,
we forget about almost anything and everything,
therefore,
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you love us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you adore us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you miss us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how much you need us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of how important we are in your life.
we need to be reminded again and again,
of the reasons why you love us.
we need to be reminded again and again,
that life sucks without us.
because if you don't do that,
we'll forget.
because we girls suffer from amnesia,
so deal with it, guys!
Sunday, August 29, 2010
if you choose to live, then you choose to move on.
warning : ini entri berbaur sentimental. sekiranya anda seorang rockstar tegar, i advise you not to go on reading k. today, ini rockstar tetiba mahu layan balada. zassss!
love isn't always the greatest gift. yes love takes you high, so high that you won't wanna step on real world ever again. but they say, the higher you get, the greater is the fall. and when love takes you down, there's no easy way to get up.
a failed relationship is not as simple as it sounds. bila kau dah cinta orang separuh mati, dah berjanji sehidup semati and all of sudden you have to let go everything, i swear to god, it's not easy. they say, don't play with fire, buruk padahnya. well same goes, jangan berani bermain cinta if you don't know what love really is.
i don't say things that i heard. i don't just write things that i read because honestly, i know how it feels like to be at the top of the world with all the love that showers you. tapi, aku juga pernah rasa the greatest fall. the greatest fall yang aku tak pernah jangka, apa lagi bersedia. yes, i never was prepared for that greatest fall.
yes i'm talking about my failed relationship. it was a 5 years relationship. just imagine, dari zaman aku ambil PMR, sampai ke SPM, zaman kegemilangan habis sekolah sampai lah ke zaman aku ambil IB (International Baccalaureate), i was obliged to love only one person. not because i have to, but it was because i wanted to. it started with a typical kind of puppy love, but it got serious as i grew older, and the love got stronger as the relationship got older.
they say i was too young to love. but heck they don't even know what i feel when they fucking say that. and tak perlulah aku ulas dengan panjang lebar the reason of our break-up, it's enough to say that it wasn't because of any other third party. it wasn't a clean break-up. it was one hell of disaster when it occurred to me, or us. yes, both of us. we didn't ask for it, but we couldn't go on any further and that left us with break-up as the only option.
it didn't took me days to recover. not even months. it was longer than that. i made a bet that it was gonna take me maximum 1 year to recover but i lost to my own bet. it was longer than that. moving on isn't as easy as spelling it, or saying it.
bullshit la kepada mereka yang hanya tahu cakap "kau ni tak reti2 ke nak move on dey" because seriously, kalau kau arif sangat perihal 'move on', kau takkan sampai hati untuk berkata macam tu dengan orang yang sedang patah hati. it's always better to shut up, then to let out such a thing to heartbroken people because it hurts to death and really, saying those kind of thing simply means you're inviting a bitch slap on your pretty face.
of course, at this crucial moment, you'll need all the support in the world to go on living. the first few weeks (or months?) was the most difficult time. i can't even go to places we used to hang out together coz i'll end up visualizing the time we used to spend and finally, i'll end up soaking in gallons of tears. and by places we used to go, i meant the whole of shah alam even the pasar malam has its own sweet memories.
months past by, i got a little better. of course, my besties are those who were at rescue when i needed someone to listen to me or to give me advices. they don't judge me like others. and at this recovery period, it's normal to find that your heart doesn't sync well with your brain. whatever that your brain thinks might be good for yourself doesn't make any sense to the heart. well, it's something you can't escape. gotta deal with it.
but true enough. you can't push urself to move on. it's just a matter of time. the quote 'time will heal' is not for nothing, it has worked on me so must work on you too, heartbroken ppl. the only problem is, you can't decide when u're gonna heal but have some faith, tell yourself that someday you'll be fine again. in the mean time, you know committing suicide is not worth it because the next day, or next week, or next month, you'll be back on your own 2 feet, standing tougher than ever before.
but please, if you have friends yang sedang heartbroken, don't push 'em to move on and forget everything. it's not gonna work. it's not gonna help him/her to get away even from the slightest pain by saying that. it's annoying okay kalau kau setakat reti cakap "ala putus cinta je bukan ape pun" wtf you make urself clear that you dunno wtf love is.
during the recovery period, i woke up in the morning and still mourning over the loss. i did lots of things to distract myself, laughed out loud to cover up the pain but truth is, there was still a hole in my heart. there wasn't a single love song that doesn't remind me of the past and though it pains the hell out of me, i kept listening and i kept allowing the past to pass through my train of thoughts. some might have caught me shedding some tears at the most awkward moment ever.
but now, i can smile as i look back, no more shedding tears as i remember the past. it's over and done with. i'm done mourning hee. aku sudah move on dengan hidup aku. cukuplah aku stucked in the past for @$!%! already. god knows exactly how long i had to deal with it. dulu aku ingat aku takkan pernah move on, but now i proved myself wrong. and if you ever feel like you can never move on, you're wrong. it's just a matter of time. as for now, just take it slow and go with the flow. no pushing.
i'm grateful that i'm blessed with people who are sincere to be with me today. be it best friends or boyfriend, they're all amazing people. they helped me get through my darkest moment. and i'm sure, you have your army too, they'll support you in everything you do so don't ever think you can't move on. if you choose to continue living, then u actually choose to move on :)
p/s : i intended to write in malay but i end up writing mostly in english. tettt. not so balada la.
love isn't always the greatest gift. yes love takes you high, so high that you won't wanna step on real world ever again. but they say, the higher you get, the greater is the fall. and when love takes you down, there's no easy way to get up.
a failed relationship is not as simple as it sounds. bila kau dah cinta orang separuh mati, dah berjanji sehidup semati and all of sudden you have to let go everything, i swear to god, it's not easy. they say, don't play with fire, buruk padahnya. well same goes, jangan berani bermain cinta if you don't know what love really is.
i don't say things that i heard. i don't just write things that i read because honestly, i know how it feels like to be at the top of the world with all the love that showers you. tapi, aku juga pernah rasa the greatest fall. the greatest fall yang aku tak pernah jangka, apa lagi bersedia. yes, i never was prepared for that greatest fall.
yes i'm talking about my failed relationship. it was a 5 years relationship. just imagine, dari zaman aku ambil PMR, sampai ke SPM, zaman kegemilangan habis sekolah sampai lah ke zaman aku ambil IB (International Baccalaureate), i was obliged to love only one person. not because i have to, but it was because i wanted to. it started with a typical kind of puppy love, but it got serious as i grew older, and the love got stronger as the relationship got older.
they say i was too young to love. but heck they don't even know what i feel when they fucking say that. and tak perlulah aku ulas dengan panjang lebar the reason of our break-up, it's enough to say that it wasn't because of any other third party. it wasn't a clean break-up. it was one hell of disaster when it occurred to me, or us. yes, both of us. we didn't ask for it, but we couldn't go on any further and that left us with break-up as the only option.
it didn't took me days to recover. not even months. it was longer than that. i made a bet that it was gonna take me maximum 1 year to recover but i lost to my own bet. it was longer than that. moving on isn't as easy as spelling it, or saying it.
bullshit la kepada mereka yang hanya tahu cakap "kau ni tak reti2 ke nak move on dey" because seriously, kalau kau arif sangat perihal 'move on', kau takkan sampai hati untuk berkata macam tu dengan orang yang sedang patah hati. it's always better to shut up, then to let out such a thing to heartbroken people because it hurts to death and really, saying those kind of thing simply means you're inviting a bitch slap on your pretty face.
of course, at this crucial moment, you'll need all the support in the world to go on living. the first few weeks (or months?) was the most difficult time. i can't even go to places we used to hang out together coz i'll end up visualizing the time we used to spend and finally, i'll end up soaking in gallons of tears. and by places we used to go, i meant the whole of shah alam even the pasar malam has its own sweet memories.
months past by, i got a little better. of course, my besties are those who were at rescue when i needed someone to listen to me or to give me advices. they don't judge me like others. and at this recovery period, it's normal to find that your heart doesn't sync well with your brain. whatever that your brain thinks might be good for yourself doesn't make any sense to the heart. well, it's something you can't escape. gotta deal with it.
but true enough. you can't push urself to move on. it's just a matter of time. the quote 'time will heal' is not for nothing, it has worked on me so must work on you too, heartbroken ppl. the only problem is, you can't decide when u're gonna heal but have some faith, tell yourself that someday you'll be fine again. in the mean time, you know committing suicide is not worth it because the next day, or next week, or next month, you'll be back on your own 2 feet, standing tougher than ever before.
but please, if you have friends yang sedang heartbroken, don't push 'em to move on and forget everything. it's not gonna work. it's not gonna help him/her to get away even from the slightest pain by saying that. it's annoying okay kalau kau setakat reti cakap "ala putus cinta je bukan ape pun" wtf you make urself clear that you dunno wtf love is.
during the recovery period, i woke up in the morning and still mourning over the loss. i did lots of things to distract myself, laughed out loud to cover up the pain but truth is, there was still a hole in my heart. there wasn't a single love song that doesn't remind me of the past and though it pains the hell out of me, i kept listening and i kept allowing the past to pass through my train of thoughts. some might have caught me shedding some tears at the most awkward moment ever.
but now, i can smile as i look back, no more shedding tears as i remember the past. it's over and done with. i'm done mourning hee. aku sudah move on dengan hidup aku. cukuplah aku stucked in the past for @$!%! already. god knows exactly how long i had to deal with it. dulu aku ingat aku takkan pernah move on, but now i proved myself wrong. and if you ever feel like you can never move on, you're wrong. it's just a matter of time. as for now, just take it slow and go with the flow. no pushing.
i'm grateful that i'm blessed with people who are sincere to be with me today. be it best friends or boyfriend, they're all amazing people. they helped me get through my darkest moment. and i'm sure, you have your army too, they'll support you in everything you do so don't ever think you can't move on. if you choose to continue living, then u actually choose to move on :)
p/s : i intended to write in malay but i end up writing mostly in english. tettt. not so balada la.
Saturday, December 26, 2009
knock you down
[Keri Hilson]
Not again
Oh this ain't supposed to happen to me
[Kanye West]
Keep rockin and keep knockin'
Whether you're louis vuittonin it up, or reebokin
You see the hate that they serving on a plater
So what we gon have dessert or disaster?
[Keri Hilson]
I never thought I'd be in love like this
When I look at you my mind goes on a trip
Then you came in and knocked me on my face
Feels like I'm in a race but I already won first place
I never thought I fall for you as hard as I did (as hard as I did, yeah)
You got me thinking about our life, our house and kids (Yeah)
Every morning I look at you and smile
Cause boy you came around and you knocked me down (knocked me down)
[Chorus]
Sometimes love comes around (love comes around, love comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
[Ne-Yo]
I never thought I'd hear myself say
Ya'll go ahead
I think I'm gonna to kick it with my girl today
I used to be commander in chief for my pimp ship flying high
Till i met this pretty little missile, who shot me out the sky
Hate to know i'm crashing don't know how it happened
but i know it feels so damn good
Said if i could go back and make it happen faster
don't you know i would baby if i could
Miss independent, to the fullest, the load never too much
she helping me pull it, she shot bullet that ended that life
I swear to you the pimp in me just died tonight
girl sometimes love
Sometimes love comes around (love comes around, love comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
[Kanye West]
Tell me now can you make past your caspers
So we could finally fly off into NASA
You was always the cheerleader of my dreams
to seem to only date the head of football teams,
and i was the class clown that always kept you laughing
we were never meant to be, baby we just happened
so please don't mess up the trick,
hey young world, i'm the new slick rick,
they say i move to quick but we can't let this moment past us,
let the hour glass pass right into ashes
let the wind blow the ash right before my glasses
so i wrote this love letter right before my classes
how could a goddess ask someone that's only average, for advice
o-m-g you listen to that bitch?
woah is me, baby this is tragic
cause we had it, we was magic
i was flying, now i'm crashing
this is bad, real bad, michael jackson
now i'm mad, real mad, joe jackson
you should leave your boyfriend now, i'ma ask him
[Keri Hilson]
so you gotta take the good, the bad,happy and the sad
but will you bring the better future then i had in the past
cause i don't want to make the same mistakes i did
i don't wanna fall back on my face again
woah, woah
i'll admit it, i was scared to answer loves call
woah, woah
and if it hits, better make it worth the fall
(When it comes around)
Sometimes love comes around (love comes around, love comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Sometimes love comes around (comes around)
and it knocks you down
just get back up
when it knocks you down (knocks you down)
Won’t see it coming when it happens
but when it happens you’re gonna feel it, let me tell you now
you see when love comes knocks you down
Won’t see it coming when it happens
but when it happens you’re gonna feel it, let me tell you now
you see when love knocks you down
p/s : this is not really my kind of music, but i fell in love with the words.
Monday, December 21, 2009
what would you do?
so what would you do, if your best friends hate your boyfriend? or your boyfriend hates your best friends?
so what would you do, if your boyfriend bitches about your best friends to you? and how would you react if your best friends tell you how much they hate your boyfriend.
you love both party, but they hate each other. what would you do?
it happens in real life. i admit i do hate some of my best friends' boyfriend(s), and i must admit i've been in this situation before. it's not easy really.
you can't choose. you just can't. you need both because boyfriend can't replace best friends, and best friends can't replace boyfriend. they're just different.
and what if it happens to you that your sister or brother hates your boyfriend? and they don't bother to make friends with your boyfriend? or what if your boyfriend's sister or brother hates you? or maybe, your boyfriend hates your siblings? how will you deal with this sucky condition?
you can do everything in this world to impress the other family, but what if everything goes unnoticed? what if your effort goes to waste? are you going to put away that ego? are you not?
depressing right?
here comes the worst ever situation.
so what would you do, if your daddy hates your boyfriend? and mummy hates him too. what would you do if your boyfriend can't seem to get along with them both. what would you do? dare to have a sweet escape with him to a faraway land? dare to marry someone without your parents' blessing? so what would you do?
or what if the boyfriend's parents hate you for no concrete reasons? and you've been putting so much effort to ditch the hatred only to know that they hate you even more than before. what would you do?
it's like a dead end. loving someone who is hated by other important people around you is the most terrible situation ever.
so dear best friends, sisters, brothers, dads, moms, you don't wanna see your lovely daughter/friend/sister lives in depression, don't you? just stop the hating. stop the bitching. stop right now.
drama rama. are you not tired of hating each other?
p/s : none of the above is related to my current situation, so yeah, don't get the wrong idea about me.
so what would you do, if your boyfriend bitches about your best friends to you? and how would you react if your best friends tell you how much they hate your boyfriend.
you love both party, but they hate each other. what would you do?
it happens in real life. i admit i do hate some of my best friends' boyfriend(s), and i must admit i've been in this situation before. it's not easy really.
you can't choose. you just can't. you need both because boyfriend can't replace best friends, and best friends can't replace boyfriend. they're just different.
and what if it happens to you that your sister or brother hates your boyfriend? and they don't bother to make friends with your boyfriend? or what if your boyfriend's sister or brother hates you? or maybe, your boyfriend hates your siblings? how will you deal with this sucky condition?
you can do everything in this world to impress the other family, but what if everything goes unnoticed? what if your effort goes to waste? are you going to put away that ego? are you not?
depressing right?
here comes the worst ever situation.
so what would you do, if your daddy hates your boyfriend? and mummy hates him too. what would you do if your boyfriend can't seem to get along with them both. what would you do? dare to have a sweet escape with him to a faraway land? dare to marry someone without your parents' blessing? so what would you do?
or what if the boyfriend's parents hate you for no concrete reasons? and you've been putting so much effort to ditch the hatred only to know that they hate you even more than before. what would you do?
it's like a dead end. loving someone who is hated by other important people around you is the most terrible situation ever.
so dear best friends, sisters, brothers, dads, moms, you don't wanna see your lovely daughter/friend/sister lives in depression, don't you? just stop the hating. stop the bitching. stop right now.
drama rama. are you not tired of hating each other?
p/s : none of the above is related to my current situation, so yeah, don't get the wrong idea about me.
Tuesday, November 3, 2009
true love part II
it's almost 1 am in the morning and i'm still wide awake. i'm conscious and lying comfortably on my bed with my laptop on, am oriented to time, space and person. eh eh this is the line we've been using for our history taking in clinics.
for a moment, i'm not satisfied with my previous post about true love because i THINK i have A LOT to write about it but it doesn't comes out right. ahaha, as if i got marks for writing an essay about true love la kan. gosh i'm a sucker for this. i've been listening to all kinds of love problems from friends, be it love triangle, forbidden love etc etc and still i fail to convince myself that love is a bitch.
i mean, yes, love hurts almost everyone in this world. who would step forward and tell me u've never gotten urself hurt when u're in love? isn't it an obvious reason for us all to conclude that love is a bitch? yes it is but still u can't escape love, because in case of love, the heart definitely overrule the head.
we don't choose fall in love, but we're chosen to fall in love. did it ever happen to you that once upon a time when u were a little girl, u made a list of the criteria of your future boyfriend/husband? and u've been listing all the good things in the world like handsome seperti brad pitt, kaya seperti donald trump, beriman seperti nik aziz and the list goes on. oh please don't tell me i'm the only one that make that silly list (most of my childhood girlfriends did the same thing also ;p ) so btw the point is, how many of us really do fall in love with the so-called ideal boyfriend?
there's no such thing as an ideal boyfriend/girlfriend when u fall in love. even if you found an ideal guy, love won't develop instantaneously. because love is not found, love is built.
sometimes, the heart choose a loser over a perfect guy u've been dreaming all your life, simply because love is a bitch. sometimes, u choose to stay after he ruined ur life, simply because love is a bitch. sometimes, you choose to keep giving when all he does is taking, simply because love is a bitch.
i'm hating the way love is treating some people. i really do.
for a moment, i'm not satisfied with my previous post about true love because i THINK i have A LOT to write about it but it doesn't comes out right. ahaha, as if i got marks for writing an essay about true love la kan. gosh i'm a sucker for this. i've been listening to all kinds of love problems from friends, be it love triangle, forbidden love etc etc and still i fail to convince myself that love is a bitch.
i mean, yes, love hurts almost everyone in this world. who would step forward and tell me u've never gotten urself hurt when u're in love? isn't it an obvious reason for us all to conclude that love is a bitch? yes it is but still u can't escape love, because in case of love, the heart definitely overrule the head.
we don't choose fall in love, but we're chosen to fall in love. did it ever happen to you that once upon a time when u were a little girl, u made a list of the criteria of your future boyfriend/husband? and u've been listing all the good things in the world like handsome seperti brad pitt, kaya seperti donald trump, beriman seperti nik aziz and the list goes on. oh please don't tell me i'm the only one that make that silly list (most of my childhood girlfriends did the same thing also ;p ) so btw the point is, how many of us really do fall in love with the so-called ideal boyfriend?
there's no such thing as an ideal boyfriend/girlfriend when u fall in love. even if you found an ideal guy, love won't develop instantaneously. because love is not found, love is built.
sometimes, the heart choose a loser over a perfect guy u've been dreaming all your life, simply because love is a bitch. sometimes, u choose to stay after he ruined ur life, simply because love is a bitch. sometimes, you choose to keep giving when all he does is taking, simply because love is a bitch.
i'm hating the way love is treating some people. i really do.
true love?
So the girls and me were discussing about true love in twitter. You see, twitter is really addictive lately. And so the topic leaves me to think what true love really mean to me, and how true is true love. Am not so sure if I can put it in words perfectly because there are things words fail to describe but anyway, here am I trying.
True love is like drugs,
It takes you high, relieves you from pain and sorrow that you're facing, the more love you get the happier you are, but once the love is gone, you'll search for it, u'll do anything to get it back, u'll cry for it to come back, the absence makes u suffer, the absence crushes your heart so bad, u feel like u've lost the most important thing in ur life.
that's why there's a limit to the dosage of drugs to be consumed, love overdose leads to dependance. too much love can be a real pleasure, but too much love eats u from the inside. true love always hurt. true love reveals the sensitive part of u, u become so vulnerable that everything that ur partner does gives an impact to you. even a single insignificant word can blow you up, because he's ur true love.
true love doesn't pretend. true love is when you're happy just being urself. true love doesn't need you to change to impress, true love doesn't simply fade even after seeing the worst of ur partner, even after he humiliate himself, even after he does that thing u hate, true love doesn't come to an ideal boyfriend u've been dreaming of.
true love is when u're willing to live with his weaknesses, willing to endure the hardship together with that smile in ur face, true love doesn't bore you, true love is not found, it is built.
true love is when u don't get enough for ur other half, when you hate his annoying jokes but u'll miss it when he behaves, true love is when listening to certain songs drives you to think of him, it is when you are like a lost child searching for his parents when u suddenly smell his perfume, true love is when your heart stops beating when he walks away.
true love can never be replaced. true love conquers a portion of ur heart even after it's over. simply said, true love is something that will mess up ur life.
p/s : this is yet the hardest thing to be described in words, yes that's what i can conclude after my attempt to describe true love, it's tougher than i thought.
True love is like drugs,
It takes you high, relieves you from pain and sorrow that you're facing, the more love you get the happier you are, but once the love is gone, you'll search for it, u'll do anything to get it back, u'll cry for it to come back, the absence makes u suffer, the absence crushes your heart so bad, u feel like u've lost the most important thing in ur life.
that's why there's a limit to the dosage of drugs to be consumed, love overdose leads to dependance. too much love can be a real pleasure, but too much love eats u from the inside. true love always hurt. true love reveals the sensitive part of u, u become so vulnerable that everything that ur partner does gives an impact to you. even a single insignificant word can blow you up, because he's ur true love.
true love doesn't pretend. true love is when you're happy just being urself. true love doesn't need you to change to impress, true love doesn't simply fade even after seeing the worst of ur partner, even after he humiliate himself, even after he does that thing u hate, true love doesn't come to an ideal boyfriend u've been dreaming of.
true love is when u're willing to live with his weaknesses, willing to endure the hardship together with that smile in ur face, true love doesn't bore you, true love is not found, it is built.
true love is when u don't get enough for ur other half, when you hate his annoying jokes but u'll miss it when he behaves, true love is when listening to certain songs drives you to think of him, it is when you are like a lost child searching for his parents when u suddenly smell his perfume, true love is when your heart stops beating when he walks away.
true love can never be replaced. true love conquers a portion of ur heart even after it's over. simply said, true love is something that will mess up ur life.
p/s : this is yet the hardest thing to be described in words, yes that's what i can conclude after my attempt to describe true love, it's tougher than i thought.
Thursday, October 29, 2009
language of the heart.
kau tak boleh suruh lidah kau rasa masam bila tertelan garam yang dah tentu masin. PAHAM?
tapi lidah kau boleh kata benci walaupun hati tetap cinta.
maka, hati itu adalah rahsia terbesar buat pemilik.
dia kata dia jatuh cinta bila hatinya disentuh,
aku kata, aku tak rasa kau punya hati untuk di sentuh to begin with.
dia kata, hati aku telah dicuri oleh si cantik rupawan,
aku kata, "wtf? i don't have your heart with me!"
kemana hati telah membawa diri?
sedangkan pemilik hati tidak punya jawapan for that.
dan rahsia pemilik hati is no longer his secret to keep.
but a mystery that is yet to be revealed.
tapi lidah kau boleh kata benci walaupun hati tetap cinta.
maka, hati itu adalah rahsia terbesar buat pemilik.
dia kata dia jatuh cinta bila hatinya disentuh,
aku kata, aku tak rasa kau punya hati untuk di sentuh to begin with.
dia kata, hati aku telah dicuri oleh si cantik rupawan,
aku kata, "wtf? i don't have your heart with me!"
kemana hati telah membawa diri?
sedangkan pemilik hati tidak punya jawapan for that.
dan rahsia pemilik hati is no longer his secret to keep.
but a mystery that is yet to be revealed.
Thursday, October 15, 2009
Saturday, October 10, 2009
Tuesday, July 28, 2009
platonic love : why high school lovers don't make it to the end?
falling in love during high school is not uncommon. we can simply find these school kids walk hand in hand with their gf/bf after school. they really walk their heads up - proud to have someone they can call girlfriend or boyfriend, at such a young age. yeah, kids nowadays.
high school is full of dramas don't u think so? that's because most of us are going through our rebellious phase at this age. having a steady boyfriend/girlfriend at this age can really add up more spices to ur dramas. whether it is good or bad, it really depends on u.
most of the time after finishing high school, u'll find the same person walking hand in hand with a totally different partner. yes, the sweetest couple in school finally broke up. but why?
they used to understand each other more than their sibblings do. they used to do fun stuffs together. they used to be with each other through high and low. they used to do everything together. and there wasn't a single sign showing that they are not meant for each other. everything was perfect, back then. and yet, they broke up, after so many years.
this is so common. i've seen a lot of my friends, who have been dating for years and years (some of em even date up till 7 years) and still, they don't make it to the end. they say, make up don't break up, but some relationship just won't work after some time, and u just can't trace the mistake.
is it not love that they were sharing all this while? well yeah, it was love, purely love. just my humble point of view, i think high school lovers are meant to learn from each other, not just about love, but about everything, about friendship, responsibilities and everything about life so that u are more prepared to face the world in the future.
the laughter u shared and the tears u shed, those two are the platform that makes a stronger you. some people might say, throw away all the memories u have with ur high school lover and start over a new life. to me, u can still start fresh without throwing away anything. keep those memories somewhere, because u might want to thank him/her for making u so much stronger today, for making u a better person tomorrow, and yes, for that precious time spent together.
u might hate him/her now, but hatred will bring u nowhere. there are reasons why they don't make it to ur future. there are reasons why they are history. and most importantly, there are reasons why u met him/her some time ago. there are always reasons. so don't cry because it's over, but smile because it happened.
sometimes, it takes u numbers before u can meet THE ONE. well, don't take the previous relationship as ur love or first love or whatever, instead, take it as a lesson. now it sounds better right? and make sure u learn ur lesson :) life is the real teacher anyway.
p/s : some people are not meant to be ur lovers, but they are meant to teach u what life is worth. be thankful to those people.
when u say life is a bitch, that means, life has taught u so many things. and when u meet a bitch, don't hate her, get to know her, a bitch too can teach u something :)
Friday, July 3, 2009
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
kisah klasik untuk masa depan
Jabat tanganku, mungkin untuk yang terakhir kali
Kita berbincang tentang memori di masa itu
Peluk tubuhku usapkan juga air mataku
Kita terharu seakan tidak bertemu lagi
Bersenang-senanglah
Kerna hari ini yang akan kita rindukan
Di hari nanti sebuah kisah klasik untuk masa depan
Kita berbincang tentang memori di masa itu
Peluk tubuhku usapkan juga air mataku
Kita terharu seakan tidak bertemu lagi
Bersenang-senanglah
Kerna hari ini yang akan kita rindukan
Di hari nanti sebuah kisah klasik untuk masa depan
Thursday, March 19, 2009
how special is special?
special thing, if u get it everyday, it will no longer be special.
i prefer to have it occasionally.
that's how i maintain the speciality :)
i prefer to have it occasionally.
that's how i maintain the speciality :)
Friday, March 6, 2009
guys are so typical
guys are so typical.
when a guy wants to get to know a girl, he'll be the most most most gentle ever guy living on this earth. he'll do just anything to please the girl. he'll walk u home and walk u everywhere u wanna go, he'll ask for some friends to lend him some money so that he can go for a date and he'll tell u that u look beautiful though u have pimples all over ur face. i'm not saying that these are all wrong things to do. i mean, if he's willing to, why not?
but for most of the guys, these things are temporary. to me, it's okay if a guy doesn't want to walk me home if later he needs to walk double or triple the distance to reach his home. and i won't be complaining if my guy doesn't have money to go for a date, i mean, dating isn't all about the money, it's about spending time together. i don't mind if we have to buy some food at pasar malam because we don't have money. and obviously, he doesn't have to bluff about me looking all beautiful when i am at my worst, i really don't mind. but the point is, why some guys really work their ass out to get a girl, and when he finally get the girl, he'll start turning into a jerk?
some guys treat their girlfriends like shit. this is a simple example. u tell me, is it appropriate to call ur girlfriend by some names like 'bitch', 'bodo', 'sial' and 'murahan' when u guys are arguing and when things get better, u simply say 'sorry' and u'll start calling her 'sayang', 'baby', 'honey', 'bucuk' etc etc. oh senangnya? bila marah panggil 'bitch' bila sayang panggil 'baby' what the tut?before couple berani pulak janji 'i takkan hurt u mcm ur ex-boyfriend buat tu, i jaga u baik2 k syg' tapi lepas couple kau sama je mcm ex-bf perempuan tu what the tut?
that's just an example. there are many more. i have some friends who got beaten by their long-term boyfriends. and some boyfriends who really take control of their girlfriends' life to the extend that she can't befriend with a guy at all. i have some friends whose boyfriends are damn stingy that he doesn't even wanna spend a cent for his girlfriend.
they say the longer the relationship, the stronger is the love. but from what i observe, the longer the relationship, the higher is the tendency for u to take ur girlfriend/boyfriend for granted. that's because u think u've got it all. u think u're not gonna lose ur girlfriend because she loves u so much and that she needs u all her life so u'll start treating her like shit. u'll start to lose respect. yeah the truth hurts but that's what happening most of the time.
why? why do people change so easily? one day u can be so angelic so sweet so kind so gentleman and another day u can turn into a real b*stard who doesn't know how to appreciate people. oh yes i forgot, we're all actors and life is the stage. we're all acting in this cruel world. and some acting doesn't have any moral values and humanity at all.
it's sad to see some relationship breaks into pieces. some used to be the sweetest ever, but end up with a dreadful misery. if u're one of those who are going through the same thing, good luck and be strong! losing a jerk is better than keeping him for the rest of ur life seriously. sumpah tak rugi langsung kalau hilang lelaki tak guna yes there's really nothing to lose babe so be strong and move on!
oh this entry is a reflection of what's going on around me. of course, not every guy is a jerk, it just happened to me that i know a lot of these jerks.
p/s : u really don't know what u have until u lose it. TAKE IT FROM ME! *cube teka ayat sape??!!* hahahahahahahaha
when a guy wants to get to know a girl, he'll be the most most most gentle ever guy living on this earth. he'll do just anything to please the girl. he'll walk u home and walk u everywhere u wanna go, he'll ask for some friends to lend him some money so that he can go for a date and he'll tell u that u look beautiful though u have pimples all over ur face. i'm not saying that these are all wrong things to do. i mean, if he's willing to, why not?
but for most of the guys, these things are temporary. to me, it's okay if a guy doesn't want to walk me home if later he needs to walk double or triple the distance to reach his home. and i won't be complaining if my guy doesn't have money to go for a date, i mean, dating isn't all about the money, it's about spending time together. i don't mind if we have to buy some food at pasar malam because we don't have money. and obviously, he doesn't have to bluff about me looking all beautiful when i am at my worst, i really don't mind. but the point is, why some guys really work their ass out to get a girl, and when he finally get the girl, he'll start turning into a jerk?
some guys treat their girlfriends like shit. this is a simple example. u tell me, is it appropriate to call ur girlfriend by some names like 'bitch', 'bodo', 'sial' and 'murahan' when u guys are arguing and when things get better, u simply say 'sorry' and u'll start calling her 'sayang', 'baby', 'honey', 'bucuk' etc etc. oh senangnya? bila marah panggil 'bitch' bila sayang panggil 'baby' what the tut?before couple berani pulak janji 'i takkan hurt u mcm ur ex-boyfriend buat tu, i jaga u baik2 k syg' tapi lepas couple kau sama je mcm ex-bf perempuan tu what the tut?
that's just an example. there are many more. i have some friends who got beaten by their long-term boyfriends. and some boyfriends who really take control of their girlfriends' life to the extend that she can't befriend with a guy at all. i have some friends whose boyfriends are damn stingy that he doesn't even wanna spend a cent for his girlfriend.
they say the longer the relationship, the stronger is the love. but from what i observe, the longer the relationship, the higher is the tendency for u to take ur girlfriend/boyfriend for granted. that's because u think u've got it all. u think u're not gonna lose ur girlfriend because she loves u so much and that she needs u all her life so u'll start treating her like shit. u'll start to lose respect. yeah the truth hurts but that's what happening most of the time.
why? why do people change so easily? one day u can be so angelic so sweet so kind so gentleman and another day u can turn into a real b*stard who doesn't know how to appreciate people. oh yes i forgot, we're all actors and life is the stage. we're all acting in this cruel world. and some acting doesn't have any moral values and humanity at all.
it's sad to see some relationship breaks into pieces. some used to be the sweetest ever, but end up with a dreadful misery. if u're one of those who are going through the same thing, good luck and be strong! losing a jerk is better than keeping him for the rest of ur life seriously. sumpah tak rugi langsung kalau hilang lelaki tak guna yes there's really nothing to lose babe so be strong and move on!
oh this entry is a reflection of what's going on around me. of course, not every guy is a jerk, it just happened to me that i know a lot of these jerks.
p/s : u really don't know what u have until u lose it. TAKE IT FROM ME! *cube teka ayat sape??!!* hahahahahahahaha
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
sweet like chocolate
having your boyfriend as a personal photographer sure is sweet (yes nad?)
having your boyfriend to play the guitar and sing a love song to you is double sweeet!
having an artistic boyfriend who can actually draw a portrait of you is definitely a big big big bonus!
above all, having azar syazwan as my boyfriend is the sweetest thing ever :)
having your boyfriend to play the guitar and sing a love song to you is double sweeet!
having an artistic boyfriend who can actually draw a portrait of you is definitely a big big big bonus!
above all, having azar syazwan as my boyfriend is the sweetest thing ever :)
Monday, September 22, 2008
scream my name!
in case u dunno, dat's my baby. yes, he screamed my name! *segan gile!!* told u, he's unpredictable and full of surprises. hahaha. credits to sophia, she was the one who recorded the historical event!LOL.
thanks to u baby, everyone knows about us now. even kakak MARA tu pon tau about me n u! all the teachers, the parents, UR PARENTS, gosshhh...i can't believe u did dat!i didnt know what to say and what to do, i blushed so much i guess!
love u syg! i miss u badly! i wish u can move to shah alam immediately so i can meet u everyday...
Thursday, September 18, 2008
BLESSED TO HAVE AZAR SYAZWAN :)
one of the best thing about my boyfriend is that he's good, really good at making surprises for me :) and yesterday, he came out with another big surprise for me.
he picked me up at my house. uh oh, have i told u that he is now my mom's best buddy? my mom seems to like him sooooo much. in fact, he brought along some kuih raya for my family.soooo nice of u syg! he even asked for my mom's permission to take me out (no one ever did that before!)
he took me to Revolving Restaurant, Federal Hotel. he said that the dinner is meant for our 1st year anniversary celebration. how sweeeet :D and he even get us an anniversary cake from Haagen-Dazs. i love it!!!
We had western cuisine for our dinner treat. the food was scrumptious! a candlelight dinner, scrumptious food, and my baby, i couldn't ask for more! :D it was indeed a perfect night out for me.
my cutie pie
happy me :D
love u more n more! mwahhh~
he's trying his best to be me! - note his pouty lips!
it was 10 pm when we walked out from the Revolving Restaurant. he drove me home safe and sound. upon reaching Shah Alam, we stopped a little while and he suddenly hand over a huge M.A.C paper bag to me. he said, those are for me, for our anniv. i went speechless for a moment! there was a card inside the paper bag. i read the card with him by my side, i was sooooo touched with the content! i swear to God i really was! i dun even know how to say thanks, a hundred thanks won't do. he got me a cute soft toy. we name it Encik Bintang. he said, if u miss me, u can cubit Encik Bintang all u want. hehehe am doing it right now.
u know me best syg, love it!
Encik Bintang, my companion when he's away.
what touches me the most, the card that he gave to me :)
words fail me sometimes. i wish i can describe my feelings perfectly but nope, my happiness is more than this. almost indescribable. to azar syazwan, don't stop loving me :) i need that all the time! 1 year has passed by, let's build more memories together! i'm blessed to have you in my life~ :) loveee ya!mwaahhh xoxo!
as long as forever, i love u syg~!
he picked me up at my house. uh oh, have i told u that he is now my mom's best buddy? my mom seems to like him sooooo much. in fact, he brought along some kuih raya for my family.soooo nice of u syg! he even asked for my mom's permission to take me out (no one ever did that before!)
he took me to Revolving Restaurant, Federal Hotel. he said that the dinner is meant for our 1st year anniversary celebration. how sweeeet :D and he even get us an anniversary cake from Haagen-Dazs. i love it!!!
thanks darl for the cake :)
We had western cuisine for our dinner treat. the food was scrumptious! a candlelight dinner, scrumptious food, and my baby, i couldn't ask for more! :D it was indeed a perfect night out for me. my cutie pie
happy me :D
love u more n more! mwahhh~
he's trying his best to be me! - note his pouty lips!
it was 10 pm when we walked out from the Revolving Restaurant. he drove me home safe and sound. upon reaching Shah Alam, we stopped a little while and he suddenly hand over a huge M.A.C paper bag to me. he said, those are for me, for our anniv. i went speechless for a moment! there was a card inside the paper bag. i read the card with him by my side, i was sooooo touched with the content! i swear to God i really was! i dun even know how to say thanks, a hundred thanks won't do. he got me a cute soft toy. we name it Encik Bintang. he said, if u miss me, u can cubit Encik Bintang all u want. hehehe am doing it right now.
Encik Bintang, my companion when he's away.
what touches me the most, the card that he gave to me :)
words fail me sometimes. i wish i can describe my feelings perfectly but nope, my happiness is more than this. almost indescribable. to azar syazwan, don't stop loving me :) i need that all the time! 1 year has passed by, let's build more memories together! i'm blessed to have you in my life~ :) loveee ya!mwaahhh xoxo!
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